21 Reasons You Should Quit Your Day Job And Travel The World

The title explains it all. Don’t read this article if you love your day job…

“Perhaps travel cannot prevent bigotry, but by demonstrating that all peoples cry, laugh, eat, worry, and die, it can introduce the idea that if we try and understand each other, we may even become friends.” – Maya Angelou

I discovered Maya Angelou when I was 15 because one of my favorite artists, Fiona Apple, loved her. Thanks Fiona and thanks Maya for providing such a powerful quote.

Most people are born with an interest in travel that never subsides. The fact that blogs like Chris Guillebeau’s, Gary Arndt’s, or this one (on a much much smaller scale) are as popular as they are is proof of this fact.

The problem is that most of us, and I fell into this trap too, put it off. Either for 1-2 weeks at a time on a yearly vacation or “until some day when X happens.” Whatever eXcuse (get it?) you have for continuing on living a life you’re not thrilled with, it’s unfounded. There is always a way. (I just set myself up for a slew of “but, but, but my situation is different” comments/e-mails.)

As you already know from Lesson #13, you’re not as different as you think. Whatever situation you’re in, someone has already been there and still made things happen.

In another post I will present to you the “how.” Here now, I present to you the “why”: 21 reasons you should quit your day job and travel the world …

  1. You’ll become more open minded and learn to treat people with more respect. No ifs, ands, or buts about it. Unless, maybe, you stay in sanitized resorts. But since not many people can afford to stay in sanitized resorts long term, this isn’t even an issue.
  2. Your job is dragging you down. (In very rare cases it’s not, and that rules.)
  3. You’re unhappy.
  4. Slaving away is getting in the way of your dreams.
  5. Traveling long term is cheaper than living wherever you’re living.
  6. It will stretch you to do things you didn’t think you could do.
  7. You might not have any big “revelations” or “aha moments” but you’ll have a blast anyway.
  8. If you have kids it will set them up for a life of independence instead of setting them up to be cogs in a machine. We need more children who are exposed to how most other people live instead of sanitized first world society. I met a British family, 5 kids aged 6-16 and their Parents, on the train up to Chiang Mai. The kids were having a ball experiencing all these new things and I could already pick out leadership qualities among each of them. In addition, they were incredibly respectful, which I’m finding less and less among children.
  9. You can eat your favorite foods in the countries where they originated.
  10. You’ll experience new foods that will quickly become your new favorites.
  11. The best fruit in the world, Jakfruit, is plentiful and cheap in Thailand. (OK, so that was a specific case for why you should travel to Thailand as opposed to anywhere. Whatever, Jakfruit is the best fruit in the world. I discovered it while in the Daintree Rainforest in Northern Queensland, Australia.)
  12. Even when it’s dangerous, it’s not as dangerous as some people would have you believe. I’ve felt more fear walking the streets of Detroit with $10 in my pocket than walking around Mumbai or Bangkok at night with thousands of dollars in gear and cash on my person.
  13. You will stumble onto awesome events like Holi and Songkran. Who doesn’t love a week-long water fight? :)
  14. This site makes a lot of good cases for saving your tax dollars by living elsewhere.
  15. You will meet, and make friends with, people who you would never have met staying where you are. Most of us only associate with people in our immediate geographical areas. I call it Friendship By Geography, and it’s incredibly sad.
  16. Facing your fears is good for you. And you will face all of them, sometimes in a single day, when traveling. How many fears do you face on a daily basis at your day job? How much do you grow as a person at your day job?
  17. You will no longer have to participate in office politics or water cooler gossip. If that’s the kind of thing you enjoy then why are you reading this site in the first place? :)
  18. You will have more time for your family, friends, and maybe more importantly, for yourself.
  19. You will become a master of fake sign language. Also known as Traveler’s Sign Language. It’s frustrating for a spell, but when your communication is finally understood it’s an awesome feeling.
  20. Even if you never become fluent, learning and using a few words in new languages is fun. My favorite thing in the world is now the Thai bow/greeting. I know the way I say it is probably horrible, but the old lady who runs the best veg restaurant in Chiang Mai (Save Thunya on Nantaram Rd just outside Chiang Mai Gate) always treats me like a king when I come in. I know she appreciates my limited Thai because she speaks approximately 3 words of English so we’re in the same boat. I wonder if I can use the Thai greeting everywhere I go? :) If you think it’s difficult learning new languages, Benny at FluentIn3Months.com has the best course available on the topic: click here to get the Language Hacking Guide.
  21. You owe it to yourself to be Ridiculously Extraordinary. Most day jobs would not be categorized as such.

What have I missed? I know there are many more good reasons to quit your day job and travel the world so leave them in the comments below …

Also, no excuses in the comments. Only positive thoughts please. ;)

Sweet Shit Saturday #001 (Sawadee Edition)

Inside: How I accumulated over 300,000 frequent flier miles in the past 1 1/2 years. Other good stuff too…

Ronald McDonald Sawadee - I took this photo in Bangkok.

Sawadee is a basic greeting in Thai. It’s not the full extent of my Thai, but I don’t know much more. The masculine form of the greeting is Sawadee Krup. Feminine is Sawadee Ka. I’m no Irish Polyglot (Benny rules!), but I do what I can to be respectful while in new countries.

I just got back from a 1 hour foot massage. Including tip it was $6. I guess that’s a pretty good deal. ;) Since walking around in my Vibram’s again my feet have had some slight pains. I’m pretty sure I’m going to get addicted to these massages.

I never keep up with these general update posts, but I feel like Sweet Shit Saturdays will stick, even if I don’t do it every week. If you can come up with a better middle word I’d love to hear it. Sweet Stuff Saturdays sounds lame. Sweet Saturdays sounds lame. I don’t need to curse, but in this case it sounds better than the alternatives I’ve come up with.

In the future I hope these updates won’t be all about me (lame!), but there are a few things in my world I need to tell you about. So on to the good stuff! (all links open in a new window)

Frequent Flyer Master Review: 191,316 Miles Can’t Be Wrong

In the past 1 1/2 years, with the help of Chris Guillebeau, I have accumulated well over 300,000 frequent flier miles. My current balance is 191,316 (it’s actually higher now, but the review was written 10 days ago)! So far I have received ~$7,000 worth of flights for less than $300 in taxes. Rock on! Thanks Chris!

Chris launched Frequent Flyer Master last year and it’s good. It’s not perfect though. I hate reviews that don’t talk about the negative aspects of products. So click here to check out my Frequent Flyer Master Review and get the real skinny.

iHeadlines – Instant Blog Headline Generator

I’ve received some great feedback on my first iPhone/iPod/iPad/iPood (coming soon!) App. I’ve only made 6 sales thus far (so, you know, super rich!), but I’ve sent free review copies to Darren Rowse, everybody at CopyBlogger, Johnny B Truant, Ed Dale, Pat Flynn, and a few other people via a Twitter giveaway. I only have 50 total free copies to give away (and the free codes expire!) so I have to make them count. i.e. I have to find influencers who hopefully like the app and will write about it…or just like the app and not write about it! So far, none of the influencers mentioned have gotten back to me. That’s OK. Keep on keepin on.

BlogCastFM.com Interview

Srini interviewed me while I was in India about 6 weeks ago and the interview went live last week. During the course of our interview I was disconnected 3 times (Indian internet!) and my mic made lots of noise. But the editing turned out well and I think it’s a great interview. I’d been listening to BlogCastFM interviews for a while, but I never made actual contact with them. Baker mentioned me in his interview and so they got in touch with me. Thanks Baker and Srini and Sid (the other dude behind BlogCastFM).

Awesome Articles I Hope You’ll Enjoy

Insecurity Doesn’t Pay The Bills by Dave Navarro

“Everyone you admire is really, really screwed up.” Dave always kills it. Always. And this article is no exception.

Also, if you’re ever planning on launching an eBook then Dave’s How To Launch The !*&# Out of Your eBook is a must read. I didn’t buy it until after I launched How To Live Anywhere. I did a lot right and a lot wrong. You can bet I’m going to do a lot more right when I relaunch in ~2 months.

18 Ways To Avoid Becoming A Human Robot by Ashley Ambirge

Ash is killing it over at The Middle Finger Project and this article is full of good deeds and sweet shit. Perfect for Saturday. :)

The Levy Flight by Seth Godin

If you’re an entrepreneur you’re probably reading Seth’s stuff already. If not, it’s time. The Levy Flight is something I talked about in the BlogCastFM interview although I didn’t know the name for it.

That’s enough links for today. Expect some more good stuff next Saturday.

Oh, btw, I’m doing a 7 day trial: no Twitter or Facebook until next Saturday. I’ll let you know how it goes and how much more productive I’ll be this coming week. :)

Updated Light Packing List (Or I’m No Longer An Ultra Light Traveler!)

An update about what I’ve been traveling with…

Let’s get it out of the way right now: with a guitar in tow I am officially a waste-my-time-waiting-for-checked-baggage traveler. And I wouldn’t change it for the world. I built a freakin guitar and I get to play it anytime, anywhere, everywhere! :)

Now to the updates.

If you haven’t read my complete list of gear, it’s all here: Travel Light, Travel Anywhere: The Ultimate Light Packing List

Most of that stuff has treated me well, but some of it is falling apart.

The Stuff That Needs Replacing

T-Shirts

My Icebreaker BodyFit 150 shirt is developing tiny holes all over! I look like I got in a fight with a cat.

Oh, speaking of cats, I saved a baby kitty from drowning in a pool within my first hour in Chiang Mai! Besides saving my own cat after the hurricanes in Florida 5 years ago, this is one of the highlights of my life. If I could handle it emotionally I would volunteer at animal rescue places instead of just sending money, but I get too emotionally attached to the critters.

Baaaaack to the story at hand: I hand wash all of my clothes so there is absolutely no reason this Icebreaker shirt should be falling apart after 7 months. Or maybe that’s just the lifespan. I don’t know, but I’m definitely going to try a different (vegan) travel shirt when I officially retire this one.

The IceBreaker BodyFit 200 does not have holes in it, but it is far too thick and I have worn it maybe 5 times in India and Thailand.

My 3rd, and last, shirt: the Patagonia Capilene 1 is getting oddly discolored. It looks bad.

So Icebreaker and Patagonia shirts are a no-go for me from here on out. Suggestions?

Socks

The Patagonia Lightweight Endurance Quarter Socks are on their last legs. The heels are almost completely worn out. I actually picked up a pair of completely synthetic socks at REI just before I left for India. I haven’t worn them much as they’re just there to replace the first pair of Patagonia socks that gets the heave-ho.

The Smartwool Adrenaline Light Mini Crew socks aren’t faring much better. One sock has a tiny hole on the heel that I’m sure will grow with time. But on the whole, the Smartwool socks feel more sturdy than the Patagonia.

I stopped wearing my Vibram Five Fingers, which cuts down on sock usage, after I hurt my knee running 4-5 weeks ago in India. But now my knee is better so I’ll be wearing them more. The only way to get the stink out is a machine wash and they start to stink really quickly. Still not sure what to do about that.

Pants

My lone pair of pants are holding up well as far as the material is concerned, but they’re stained and even 2 machine washes didn’t get the stains out. This is why I wish travel clothes companies would come out with darker colors. I never wanted these khaki colored pants to begin with, but dark travel pants are near impossible to find. Especially when you’re 6′ 5″ and need a long inseam.

I’ve actually strongly considered creating my own line of travel pants in only dark colors and with strictly zippered pockets. I’m not passionate enough about it to actually follow through so I’m throwing the idea out there for you. :)

On To The New Stuff!

Amazon Kindle 2

Amazon Kindle 2 – Holy wow I love this thing! What I don’t love is that the books aren’t DRM free, which means if I get a different eBook reader in the future I can’t transfer the books. Lame. I love Amazon’s MP3 store for the lack of DRM, why did they mess up the Amazon Kindle eBook store? Dummyness. (new word?)

The Kindle is great because the screen has no back light and my eyes don’t get tired no matter how long I read. It really is just like reading a paperback, only without the page flipping. I’ve read it in the bright sun with no problems and actually ran into another guy reading a Kindle on the beach in Goa, India.

Biggest selling point for me (the reason I bought it actually): You can download eBooks from something like 65 countries directly to the Kindle from the wireless Kindle store (it’s $2 extra to get the wireless delivery internationally, free if you transfer via USB). In addition, there is a basic Web browser and Wikipedia search function. I used this when I was having trouble with Internet in India to check e-mail. No additional charge for that!

iPod Touch 32GB

iPod Touch 32 GB – I told myself I wouldn’t replace my old iPod Mini until it broke. Well, that thing is a workhorse and I’m convinced it will never break. I gave it to my Dad. Even put Lady Gaga on it for him, hoping one day he’ll click play and his mind will be blown. :) (He’s reading this, btw.)

So why did I get the iPod Touch?

1) I love music and with 32GB of storage I can fit almost my entire music collection on it.

2) I love reading and the free Stanza eBook reader app lets me read public domain eBooks when I’m waiting in line, on public transport, or just hanging out without my Kindle. There’s also a Kindle app if I want to read my Kindle books! It’s not great reading eBooks on this tiny thing, but for 1-30 minutes it’s perfect.

3) The Skype App allows me to use it as a phone as long as I have  a WiFi connection.

4) The Wifi capability allows me to respond to e-mail and moderate blog comments if I so desire.

5) I wanted to get into iPhone/iPod Touch App development and that’s a little difficult without owning the device. My first app (iHeadlines: Instant Blog Headline Generator) is out by the way! I’ve had some good feedback about it so far and an article about iPhone App Development is coming soon. iHeadlines is only $3 right now so if you have a blog you should go get it ASAP. I am considering raising the price because at $3 it’s not going to even make development costs back. :)

6) Battery life. The battery life of the iPod Mini is 4-5 hours. I can listen to music on my iPod Touch for a good 20 hours before recharging.

7) Note taking. When a note doesn’t constitute using my pen/notepad I put it on the iPod.

Clif Bar!
Clif Bar

Clif Bars instead of Organic Raw Food Bars – While the raw food bars taste better and have better ingredients they are also very melty. Clif Bars, almost all of which are vegan, don’t melt. They come from the future. Since sometimes finding veg options is difficult or time-consuming in a new place, I need some rations to hold me over. These do a mighty fine job.

Also, the book that Gary Erickson wrote a few years ago is a Freedom Fighters must read: Raising the Bar: Integrity and Passion in Life and Business: The Story of Clif Bar & Co.

Lenovo X200

Lenovo X200 (no link because I don’t really recommend it) – A very small, very light, fully-functioning laptop. This is not a netbook. I researched computers forever before finally deciding on this one. I was very close to getting a Macbook Air, but Apple is stupid and only put one USB port on that thing. Since I use my computer to recharge batteries, my Flip camera, and my iPod, I need more than one USB port. Sorry Apple, you’re not perfect. Yes, I understand I could use a USB hub. But if I’m going to spend $2k+ on a computer it better have what I want. The X200 was barely over $1k.

That said, the Lenovo X200 isn’t perfect either. I can’t get the Bluetooth to work (I want to see if there are any cool things I can do with the iPod Touch’s Bluetooth) and the Trackpoint mouse causes intense cramps in my right hand/forearm. There is no trackpad, which is what all other laptops use for the mouse.

I will sell this computer when I get back to the States and find something else. Maybe Apple will smarten up and put at least one additional USB port on the Air and I’ll become an Apple fanboy who believes Apple does no wrong (even though there’s a Genius Bar at every Apple store to handle all the problems with Macs haha). ;) (Sorry dudes and dudettes, just busting your Apple chops. I still love you.)

PacSafe MetroSafe 300

Pacsafe MetroSafe 300 – Similar to my old MetroSafe 200, except bigger (for the new laptop), and with better security features. I like it a lot, but it’s not perfect. It’s heavy by itself (due to the metal!). Add the laptop and cameras and my shoulder/back starts hurting pretty quickly. The strap is the problem. It’s too thin and digs in. I think that’s the problem with most messenger bags though.

Flip Ultra HD

Flip UltraHD Camcorder – I upgraded from my old Flip Ultra to the newer HD model and I’m glad I did. The video quality is great and it takes 2 hours of video instead of 1 hour. I’m a big fan of these little workhorses, especially considering they’re so cheap. (Get it used and it’s even cheaper!)

And that’s it. Not too much change, but enough to warrant an update.

Videos!

(If you’re reading via e-mail click here to view videos.)

Pacsafe 55 Demonstration:

Pacsafe MetroSafe 300 Demonstration:

Coming soon!

Coming soon (err, eventually): ultra light packing for women. I have enlisted 3 awesome women (readers of this site) to hook me up with their light packing lists. Editing packing lists is a pain though so I’ve been putting it off for months.

Have your own light packing list? Link to it below!

Question about the items on my list? Ask below.

Want to buy an item from my list for your own adventures? Click the links above and Amazon gives me 4-7% per sale. (4% for electronics.) Usually that amounts to this site generating $40-$50/month in commissions from Amazon, which isn’t much, but you will never hear me complain about “free” money. :)

How To Minimize Stress and Maximize Awesomeness!

If you’re stressed, here’s how to relieve that stress and live awesome …

During the courses of our lives we go through a lot of transition periods. Transitions can be both stressful and awesome.

Marriages, graduations, new careers, new relationships, new destinations …

That last one is an interesting one for me and it prompted this article.

My second night in Bangkok I hung out with Sean Ogle of Location180.com (check it out, he rocks) and we were talking about how much we love our lives. Is that nerdy? ;)

But we were also talking about stresses involved with our work. That stress being, we love what we do, but when we’re in a travel period (transition period) and visiting a new city, it’s tough to get work done. And not working is stressful because it’s something we enjoy. It’s a funny cycle. :)

Tangent (you know how I love them): Sean is also a guitar player. Like me, he gets stressed if he can’t play a guitar for an extended period of time. One of the many reasons I built a guitar in India is because when I was traveling through Australia/New Zealand for 4 months it was stressful not having a guitar.

But I digress …

While in Bangkok (I’m in Chiang Mai now, love it!) I knew it was just for a short while so I put off work even though I had stuff to get done. On both Thursday and Friday I went to one of the Regus offices in the city (free access with my Amex Platinum Card) and did 1-2 hours of work. But the city was calling me so I answered.

What Are Stressful Transitions?

Stressful transitions are different for me and you. Mine are things like being on the road for an extended period of time vs staying put in a new place for an extended period of time.

Traveling around New Zealand in a bus for 30 days? Awesome! But stressful as all get out. (I think I’ve used that phrase twice within the past 2 weeks. When will it get out of my system? Nobody knows.)

Goa, India for 2 months? Besides the first few weeks of figuring out Internet access, not stressful.

The last 24 hours were a little bit stressful:

– 14 hour overnight train (thanks to the nice British family who let me take one of their bottom, roomier, berths in exchange for my crappier upper berth!) with a bunch of loud drunk punks.

– The one vegetarian dinner option on the train wasn’t available (they did have 10 meat options, so you know, really catering to all the Buddhists) so when I got to Chiang Mai I was starving.

– The first few apartments I looked at were out of the way and expensive. Walking from apartment to apartment in the 100F/38C heat was exhausting.

But then, awesomeness:

– I quickly found a great veg restaurant.

– I found a sweet apartment for $300/month (including Internet and weekly cleaning) with 3 veg restaurants within a 60 second walk!

– All the stress immediately melted away even though I felt like I just took a shower and thought I might faint. :)

Our goal in life should be to minimize stressful transitions to maximize awesomeness.

The reason I do what I do the way that I do it is to minimize stressful transitions, which makes the fun stuff even more fun for me.

Sure, I don’t see as much as other people who travel. But I’m not here (there, or anywhere) to see everything. I’m simply living my life in a way that makes me happiest.

The Game Changer: Minimalism

My secret to minimizing the stress of even stressful transitions is through minimalism.

Minimalism and Transitions

Less stuff = less stress! ;)

My stressful transitions are less stressful because I have less to worry about.

If you’re stressed, I guarantee adopting even a little bit of minimalism into your life will do wonders to relieve your stress.

I could write for days about minimalism, but here are some rock stars who have written a lot about it:

Everett Bogue – The Freedom of Living With 75 Things

Tammy Strobel – How To Unplug From Stuff

Leo Babauta – Oh, just read everything at Mnmlist.com and ZenHabits.net :)

David Damron – 15 Ways To Become A Minimalist In 2010

Colin Wright – All 51 Things I Own

Now that I’m so quickly settled here in Chiang Mai I’m going to:

– Work.

– Eat awesome food.

– Do some fun shit.

How about you? What do you do to minimize stressful transitions and maximize awesomeness?

I Quit! Back To Florida, New House, New Car

All good things must come to an end… (My First Annual April Fool’s Day prank!)

Edit 05 April 2010: Welcome to my first annual April Fool’s Day prank. ;)

This is difficult and a little awkward to type.

I flew into Bangkok yesterday, but when I got here I decided I just can’t do this anymore. I can’t live out of a backpack anymore. I don’t want to travel. I don’t want to experience new cultures. I don’t want to meet new people. I just don’t care. What’s happening around the world doesn’t interest me.

Back To FL!

So I’m heading back to Florida. I’ll probably buy a nice house and expensive car again, because that is truly me. The real me loves materialistic things that have no meaning.

I’m also going to upgrade my wardrobe. 3 shirts and 1 pair of pants no longer! I want a different shirt and different pants for at least every day of the month. Eventually I’ll scale that up to every day of the year, but I don’t want to go overboard right away.

The first thing I’m gonna do when I get back to the States is head to a mall, hit an Express Men, and buy some skinny jeans and tight shirts.

What does this all mean?

I don’t know.

But I want to sincerely thank you. I launched this blog exactly 9 months ago and it has been a really fun time. I appreciate the fact that you stuck around and read and commented and shared and e-mailed and gave a damn.

I plan on continuing to write here.

These things happen. If anything, it’s proof that Ridiculously Extraordinary Freedom can be anything.

Thank you for everything. I won’t be checking my e-mail or comments for a while as I gotta figure out all this getting back to the USA stuff.

Love,

Challenge Everybody (Or How I Lost $150,000)

Who should you listen to? The story about my most expensive, and most important, life lesson…

A friend of mine once asked me if I would give him advice on his finances if he won the lottery.

My response was simple: “Don’t take financial advice from someone who has less money than you.”

Let’s say you come into $5 million. Would you then take investment advice from an adviser who earns less than $100k/year? (Most advisers earn far less than that.)

I definitely wouldn’t.

I’d trust myself more than the adviser and I hope you would too.

But I’d also trust someone who has a proven record of making a lot of money. This could be anybody. An entrepreneur, Warren Buffet, a grandmother. It doesn’t matter who it is as long as they’ve had success with large sums of money.

This concept holds true for anything in life.

If you’re a prospective basketball star would you take advice from coaches who haven’t coached future college and NBA stars?

If you’re an entrepreneur would you take business advice from people who haven’t run successful businesses?

If you want to be a world class chef would you train at a fast food restaurant?

If you want to get fit are you going to take advice from a fat person?

Bad Advice Breeds Bad Results

It seems like common sense, yet most of us, myself included, take advice from people who have no business giving advice. Usually, at least in my case, it doesn’t work out positively.

For example, years ago when the housing boom was hitting hard everybody was saying to get in now because housing prices are going to keep rising. Deep down I knew that wasn’t true. But what was happening was so crazy my thinking became unclear and I joined in on the frenzy.

It also didn’t help that I was earning more money than I knew what to do with.

So I purchased a house that is now worth ~$150,000 less than when I bought it. (I rented it out last year so I could live anywhere.)

To write that makes me sick to my stomach, but I’m not one to run away from the truth.

Who To Blame For Bad Advice

I could blame the people I was taking advice from. I could blame the President, the banks, the real estate agents, my family, and my friends.

But there is only one person to blame for that mistake.

Nobody put a gun to my head. I didn’t have to listen.

And ever since then I’ve told myself “never again.”

Challenge Everybody

These days I challenge all advice I receive.

Buying that house was an expensive lesson, but I don’t regret learning it in the absolute worst way. It is tattooed into my hippocampus. I will never forget.

Where Does Bad Advice Stem From?

Ninety-nine percent of the time (guesstimation) bad, unwelcome advice comes from three places:

Parents

Other Family Members

Friends

Granted, all of these people are well intentioned.

But intention means nothing.

How you live your life should be up to you.

“I’d rather go my own way and fail miserably than go their way and make it.” – Henry Rollins

I’m not saying we shouldn’t take advice from anybody. I’m saying we need to be careful who we’re taking advice from.

Persuasive people can easily lead us astray.

People you respect can do the same.

How I’ve Overcome Taking Bad Advice

1) Accept the advice with gratitude. Most people don’t mean any harm and like to chime in whether they should or not. Accept their advice. Thank them. Then…

2) Analyze where the advice is coming from. Is the advice from someone well suited to giving you that specific piece of advice? Yes? Great, consider it. It might be very useful to you. After all, the easiest way to learn something is from someone who has already made the mistakes for you. If they can save you from making a mistake or two that is perfect.

BUT, and it’s a big CAPITALIZED BUT, if they are giving you advice based on opinion and speculation then what you should do is simple:

Forget It!

It won’t be easy. Especially if it’s a Parent, family member, or close friend. But forget it anyway. Be congruent and stick to your guns.

If you fail without their advice you will only be able to blame yourself. No ill feelings towards the well-intentioned advice givers. And if you succeed, it will be the result of your own genius.

Make a pact with yourself that you will flat out not accept advice if it’s coming from someone who shouldn’t be dishing out those specific life lessons.

Does that mean you shouldn’t take advice from me?

Yes and no.

Don’t take my advice in areas you don’t think I have the proper experience.

For example, although I always get pretty good deals on flights, I’m not the best person to ask about that. For the most part I use FareCompare.com (BTW, their CEO Rick Seaney is awesome) and what I’ve learned from Chris Guillebeau’s travel products.

But I can tell you how to travel cheaply, how to eat vegan on the road, how to live anywhere, among many other things.

Take my advice in areas I have experience. Everything I write on this blog is based on personal experience.

It’s pretty black and white.

Do you have examples of situations where you took advice from the wrong person and it worked out unfavorably?

Do you have examples of situations where you took advice from the right person and it worked out favorably?

Or do you have examples of situations that contradict everything I’ve stated?

Leave it in the comments. I’m incredibly interested.

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P.S. I just realized the photo to this article makes no sense. Originally it was called “Who To Listen To” but I changed it at the last minute and forgot to change the photo! haha ;)

Are You Making These 7 Mistakes With Your Affiliate Program?

Learn how to be cool to your affiliates by fixing these mistakes…

Selling a digital information product has almost no cost outlay and negligible delivery costs. It’s a great business model.

But if you’re an infoproduct seller you’re probably straight up ripping your affiliates off. Probably not consciously, but you’re doing it anyway.

Over the past 10 years I’ve made the majority of my income (~80% of it) as an affiliate. This article is coming from experience. I realize that most people who sell infoproducts have never been affiliates and don’t understand it from that end so this article will hopefully open up some eyes.

What I’m advising here is a long term business building strategy. Stop thinking short term. If you just want to sell one product and fade away you can do what you want. If, on the other hand, you want to cultivate an army of successful affiliates who build your business then there is no question you need to follow this advice.

It’s Difficult To Gain A New Customer

We agree on that, yes? Getting a visitor to pull out their credit card and buy something from you is difficult. At least 90% (and more likely 99%) of your visitors will never do that.

So it’s this magic 1% that support what you do monetarily. You want to do everything you can to increase the number of 1-Percenters. You do that by getting more traffic to your site. And one way you get more traffic is by getting more affiliates who sell your stuff.

Your Affiliates Work Harder Than You

Your affiliates utilize their resources, their time, their money, and their effort to send you new customers. And you don’t pay them unless they’re successful.

It’s a perfect scheme for you. Free advertising, free customers, no downside.

To an affiliate, there’s a huge downside. They might spend hours or days working on a promotion for your product with no guarantee that they’ll even make a penny. And they very well may lose money if they’re utilizing paid traffic sources, a very common strategy amongst affiliates.

7 Mistakes You Might Be Making With Your Affiliate Program

1) You offer one-time 50% (or thereabouts) affiliate commissions.

2) You sell more than one product and sell each one through a different affiliate program. (Thereby stealing traffic from affiliates who send traffic to one product and don’t get paid when customers buy a different product.)

3) You sell more than one product and only offer 50% (or thereabouts) affiliate commissions with a short affiliate cookie. Lots of people will just buy one product and then if you blow them away will later buy another product. If your affiliates only get paid on the first product you’re scamming them. See also: #5.

4) You offer less than 60% commissions. Ideally you should offer 70-80% commissions. Everything you make is free money after all. Affiliates are sending you customers you would have never had. Pay them like you care.

5) You don’t offer lifetime commissions. If your one-time affiliate commission is 70-80% (or more) then this can slide. But if your up front affiliate commission is 50% (or thereabouts) then you’re running a racket. A lot of ready-made easy to use affiliate systems make it difficult to offer lifetime commissions. If that’s the case with your chosen system, increase the commission per sale to something respectable.

I was chatting with Henri from WakeUpCloud.com a couple of weeks back about this. The main affiliate program he promotes with his affiliate marketing efforts offers lifetime commissions. He puts in a hell of a lot of time into promoting it and it’s because he loves the product AND knows he’s being treated well.

6) You accept offline or other forms of payment, but don’t pay your affiliates for those sales. There is no other way to put it: this is stealing. Robbery. Theft. Throw yourself in jail.

7) You offer one-time 50% (or thereabouts) affiliate commissions. (It’s so important it’s on the list twice.)

The First Step To Recovery: Admit It

Admit your affiliate program is garbage. Once you do that you can fix it.

Sidebar: I will (and do) happily promote a friend’s product for no commission or whatever commission they offer. It’s not about the money to me. It’s about helping a friend. Making that clear for all my friends who sell products. It’s all love here. ;)

How To Fix Your Affiliate Program

1) Immediately increase the affiliate commission to at least 60% across the board to any affiliate who has made a sale. If an affiliate has sent you a few sales, give them an extra bump in commissions. If they’ve sent you a lot of sales, give them an extra extra bump.

2) If you don’t offer lifetime commissions, find out if your affiliate systems makes it easy to do that. If it’s not doable, see #1.

3) If you have a really low cost up front product consider offering 100% commissions. This is not unheard of and it’s actually very smart.

4) If you sell more than one product using different affiliate systems stop stealing from your affiliates and consolidate into one system.

Affiliate Programs Who Are Doing It Right

There are 2 listed here. I wish there were more. I hope this article will make that happen.

DoubleYourDating.com’s affiliate program (through CJ.com) offers 200% affiliate commissions on their Double Your Dating eBook. The eBook costs $19.95 and the affiliate commission is $40! 100 sales gets you a $45 commission. And 200 sales gets you $50! And you wonder why Eben Pagan (aka David Deangelo, author of the eBook) reportedly runs a $20 million+ per year business? He treats his affiliates well. (That said, he doesn’t offer affiliate commissions on back end products. The high up-front commission is because he doesn’t offer commissions on the back end.)

UnconventionalGuides.com – I also like what Chris Guillebeau is doing with his affiliate program. He offers just 51% commissions up front, but offers a 10% boost if you perform to the tune of $2,000/month. While affiliates should be paid even more if they’re kicking ass, in comparison to most affiliate programs it’s fantastic. In addition, every product he sells is commissionable. So if you send traffic to one product but the visitor buys something else you still get paid. Sweet!

The Ultimate Affiliate Program

This is what I would like to see in an affiliate program:

– 60% commissions starting with your first sale.

– 65% commissions once you reach the 10 sale/month threshold.

– 70% commissions and biweekly payments for 50 sales/month.

– 75% commissions and biweekly payments for 100 sales/month.

– 80% commissions and weekly payments for 200 sales/month.

– No falling back on tiers. If you hit 100 sales in your first month and 25 sales your second, your commissions will still be at 75% for that second month and beyond. Why? Because that’s just cool.

Most important: A free affiliate training course that will guide you to your first sale even if you’ve never made a penny online.

Yes, that is how I’m structuring the affiliate program for How To Live Anywhere when I release Version 1.0. The free affiliate training is definitely something I could charge for, but that’s not my game plan. :)

A Perfect Affiliate Program?

There’s no such thing. This is not about being perfect. It’s about being cool with your affiliates and doing what you would want a merchant to do for you if you were an affiliate.

Your affiliates are probably your business’s life blood. Treat them well and I’ll meet you at the blood bank. ;)

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If you know of a quality affiliate program that treats their affiliates like rock stars please leave it in the comments or e-mail me (KarolGajda AT Gmail dot com) and I will add it to the list. Assuming you’ve got a kick ass product and a kick ass affiliate program I’m sure other Freedom Fighters would be happy to promote your stuff. :)

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Coming soon: an article about how I created my first iPhone / iPod Touch App. It’s currently in the review stage in the App Store and will be for sale shortly. I’ll give away a few free copies here when the time comes. It’s an App for bloggers so the requirement will be that you run a blog (a blog that you’re serious about and post to regularly) and own an iPhone or iPod Touch.

Guitars, Cows, and Pollution OH MY! (Live From India)

Lots of updates from India, including video of the guitar I built, and info about upcoming travels …

The big and really, only, update regarding India. 1,830 words, 4 videos and some pictures. :)

I was going to stay in India until late April. But … well … it’s just not “me.”

So I’m leaving to go to Thailand on 31 March. I’ll stay in Bangkok for about a week then head up to Chiang Mai for ~30 days before coming back to Bangkok to fly to Poland.

08-09 May looks like this:

– Train from Chiang Mai to Bangkok on 08 May
– FinnAir ($1800 Business Class ticket for $200 in taxes + 70,000 frequent flier miles!) leaves Bangkok at 12:15am on 09 May and heads to Helsinki (10 hour flight)
– Helsinki to Warszawa (FinnAir, same ticket), arriving at 10:25am (just a 1 hour flight!)
– Train from Warszawa to my hometown of Wroclaw that afternoon (6 hour train ride)

The at-the-border Thai visa is supposed to be only 30 days, but I couldn’t book any award travel until 09 May so hopefully they give me an extension without any hassle.

More on that another day…

Here’s some fun stuff from India!

1) The Guitar

I’ve had a lot of e-mails asking about the guitar.

Check out the video I made below. Don’t mind the silly editing in the beginning. I was trying to build suspense. (Did I miss my calling? Hollywood? I can be reached at 352 577-0173.)


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Check out a bunch more photos on my Flickr account here.


2) Cow Drinks Piss

While driving around on my scooter I ran into a heard of cows. This is a regular occurrence. For whatever reason (oh right, this shit doesn’t get old for me, I love cows!) I stopped and began videotaping. A funny thing happened …




3) Some Kind of Procession

Again, while driving around on my scooter, this happened …


Other points of interest

No Traveler’s Tummy

I eat from dirty street stands (hell, dirty restaurants in general) every day and have not had “Traveler’s Diarrhea” at all like what supposedly happens to “everybody” who comes here. I attribute this to my strengthened vegan immune system. When I used to eat meat I would get sick if somebody sneezed 10,000 miles away from me.

It’s Dirty

It really is as dirty as everybody says it is.

Let’s break it down …

a) The air is polluted as all get out. When I first got to Mumbai I went to play basketball with my CouchSurfing host and I might as well have been playing in a smoky indoor bar. My lungs were not happy. Funny thing is, the Indian kids who we played with ALL smoked during breaks. I don’t know how they do it.

This One's Called The Smog
Aguada Bay, Goa, India

b) Trash burning is a regular occurrence. All day. Every day. Couple that with almost 100 degree heat and you have the recipe for pleasant odors.




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Cow Hanging Out In Garbage Smoke

c) There are signs everywhere stating “Don’t spit, it spreads TB.” Almost everybody spits. Gross.

d) The land is your toilet. If you need to use the toilet (yes, #1 or #2) anywhere you like is fair game.

Goan Hospitality

The Goan phrases for “hello” are …

If you’re a taxi/rickshaw driver: “TAXI?! YES?! TAXI?!”

The taxi/rickshaw drivers here would rather stand around yelling TAXI! than drive anybody. They don’t use meters and will not drive you anywhere (even just down the road) for less than 50 Rupees, but more likely no less than 100. In comparison, in Mumbai I took a 1 hour taxi ride (~15km) for about 200 Rupees. When I was doing the guitar workshop I walked everywhere, but after that I rented a scooter for 150 Rupees/day.

To be clear: You could be 30 feet from a taxi driver and he will yell across the street for you until you acknowledge his poor salesmanship. “TAXI!? HELLO? FRIEND? TAXI? HELLO?! HELLO?!” All day long, no stopping. Every single taxi driver.

Eventually I stopped caring, because I understand they’re just trying to make a buck. (And getting the scooter meant I wasn’t affected by it anymore.) But if one smart taxi driver broke the “rules” and used his meter he’d be driving/making money all day instead of standing around wasting his voice.

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Autorickshaw driver doing what he does best: nothing.

If you’re a shopkeeper: “Hey! Look at my store! Just look!”

I’m a nice guy. So when a shopkeeper would extend a hand and say hello I would shake their hand and say hello. I learned to stop doing that quickly because once they have your hand you literally have to pry it away. Not a good way to make a sale.

I made friends with an Indian-American here and I asked him if this stuff happens to him with the taxi drivers and shopkeepers. He didn’t know what I was talking about. So we went walking down the road and every single person we passed wanted our wallets. He got annoyed real quick. :)

Beggars

I heard there would be a lot of problems with beggars but they have all been very kind. I’m not a fan of giving cash, but whenever I have food I offer that. They sometimes ask for money beyond the food, but that’s OK. Gotta hustle to live.

Interesting story: one day while walking from the market to my scooter (not a long walk) I ended up giving away all of my apples. So I went back to buy more. On the way back to my scooter this time nobody asked for my apples. Sign of respect? I don’t know, but it was nice.

The Cow Is Not Sacred?

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Yay cows! On the beach! Baga Beach, Goa, India

I was talking to a woman who has been in India for decades and I mentioned that I was quite surprised when I saw a guy elbow drop a cow and other people treat them like garbage. I thought the cow was sacred in India. Her response: “What you hear in the news and from outside the country is not how it truly is.”

Essentially, I’m told from various people, cows are pests. It’s true they are everywhere, and they play in traffic, and they leave cowpies where you’d rather them not leave cowpies. But if they’re sacred they’re sacred. You treat them like gods, not like dirt. So, while most people here do not eat cows, they don’t seem to be well respected animals.

I understand Goa is different (maybe due to the large (30%) Christian population?) and I also understand my definition of “sacred” means more than just “don’t eat cows.” So my final observation on this situation is: I’m still not sure what to think.

I’m also told in rural areas it’s different and cows are, indeed, treated with the utmost respect. And that makes a little more sense. I’m an ignorant American making the only observation I can with what I was presented. Take it as you will.

Wow, that was negative, so what was good?

I love Indian food. For less than 200 Rupees I could almost eat enough to make me puke. For illustration, here is part of a reference one of my CouchSurfing hosts left me: “We had a good time with Karol…[EDIT]…seeing him put away copious amounts of food (in a good way).”

I always laugh when people say I eat a lot because usually it comes from somebody who says they eat a lot and are astounded by my stomach capacity. I’m 6′ 5″ and I have a metabolism, much like the rest of my body, from the future. That explains that.

Massive 50 Rupee Paper Dosa
Massive 50 Rupee Paper Dosa (also pictured: a fresh squeezed pineapple juice)

20 Rupee coconuts! OK, maybe this falls into food, but it needs a separate mention. I’d never had fresh coconut before coming to India. I love coconut water and coconut meat! It’s full of fat, but that’s where my futuristic body comes into play.

Celebrity treatment. This annoys a lot of people. I loved it, if only for the sheer wackiness of the situation. If I spent every day on the beach I’m sure it would get annoying, but I’m not a huge fan of beaches. Anyway … every time I’d go to the beach or other touristy areas I’d get swarmed by Indian men (~20-35 in age) taking pictures of and with me. They’d put their arms around me like we were best friends and give me high fives and whatnot. It always tripped me out, but it was awesome. But again, if it happened every day I can see how it could get annoying. It’s fun to be “famous” every once in a while. :)

Nice people. In that same regard, everybody I met who wasn’t a taxi driver or shopkeeper or trying to make money from me some other way was very nice. I would go exploring on my scooter pretty much every day and in the little villages/neighborhoods around Goa lots of people would wave, kids would run out and talk to me, and people were just cool. They’d usually think I was lost, but you can’t be lost if you don’t know where you’re going. I mean that literally and philosophically. ;)

It’s cheap. Although Goa is more expensive than most areas of India, it’s still cheap. For example, most nice (i.e. not the cheapest, not the most expensive) guest houses cost 500-800 Rupees (less than $20) for a room with attached bathroom.

I rented a nice apartment in Calangute for 18,000 Rupees/month (~$400). A year ago the cost would’ve been about 20% less. Inflation is nuts here. But again, still cheap. And that price included a living room, bedroom with queen bed, cable TV (haha, pretty useless for me, but it was there), a nice outside porch, and every other day house cleaning (including new sheets/towels).

And if I was the old me I estimate I could get completely shit-faced for about $10/day. Speaking of alcohol, there’s a local Goan alcohol called Fenny (~$1 for 60mL) made from cashews (Goa is known for its cashews, mmmmm) that I wanted to try. So I did. Not drinking for 4 months was easy. And I haven’t drank for a month or so since I tried the Fenny.

Conclusion

Even though India is not “me” doesn’t mean I didn’t have a good time. It’s just not “me” that’s all. It’s kind of the whole Right People thing.

Check out more photos from India on my Flickr account here.

For more reading: check out what Chris at Nomad4Ever.com has to say about Goa here. I agree with most of it.

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Unrelated, but Kirsty over at NerdyNomad.com just released an awesome eBook called The Underground Guide To International Volunteering. I named it. ;) And yes, I bought a copy as well ($14). If you’re interested in International volunteering this has a lot of great info from someone who’s been doing it for years: http://www.nerdynomad.com/volunteering (not an affiliate link) – $7 from every sale goes to Hands On Disaster Response. Kirsty is currently in Haiti volunteering with HODR, helping clean up after the massive earthquakes.

Also, I’m going to interview Kirsty about how she makes money passively, which allows her to travel the world perpetually, for Version 1.0 of How To Live Anywhere. :)

101 Lessons Learned After 29 Years Of Living Life

101 truths I’ve learned in the past 29 years…

When I was young I wanted to live to 100. To my mind it might as well have been infinity. (I thought China was a different planet when I was 4 so maybe 100 was infinity.)

Then I got older and I didn’t want to live to anything.

Now I want to live to 100 again. As you know, I like the number 100. Actually, I’d like to live to infinity. (Wait, is China a different planet? What’s happening here? … help?)

Anyway, 29 is still very young, and I don’t claim to know it all. What I do know is what I know, you know? ;)

Much like Finding Your Right People I’ve had this post ready for a long time. I was a little bit afraid to post it, but it may be The Ultimate Filter (like The Ultimate Warrior with less color and no steroids). Maybe tomorrow I start with a blank slate.

Probably not.

I expected a lot of RSS unsubscribes after posting Finding Your Right People. Instead, my subscriber count increased by 83. For a regular traffic day that is incredible (for this site). Thank you for hangin’ out in my backyard.

This list was originally 99. Then I edited some out. Then I added some. Then I edited some out. Truth be told I think I could easily hit 1,000. But right now it’s 101. A nice, easy number we’ll also call Infinity + 1.

Infinity + 1 Lessons Karol Has Learned In 29 Years:

  1. Friends really do come and go. Some come back. Some don’t. That’s OK.
  2. Nobody cares about you as much as they care about themselves.
  3. Animals kill to survive. Humans kill for “fun” (also know as a psychopath) or because they’re ignorant of torture (I know I used to be).
  4. It’s OK to be different.
  5. Most people won’t agree with you.
  6. The people who really care will still care whether they agree with you or not.
  7. You don’t need anybody’s support to make things happen.
  8. Arguments are pointless. You can’t change anyone, don’t try.
  9. People will rationalize and justify anything and everything to be “right.” Let them.
  10. It’s easier to take a small action now instead of a big action “some day.”
  11. Some day never comes.
  12. If the music you listen to is on the radio or TV it’s pop music. Pop = popular. It doesn’t matter if there’s screaming or singing, loud guitars or soft piano, it’s pop music. I love pop music. I love unpopular music as well. ;)
  13. You’re not as different as you think.
  14. You can have anything you want.
  15. You never have to settle. Not in a relationship, not in a job, not ever.
  16. Somebody will always tell you your ideas suck. Take action anyway.
  17. You might think you’re not good enough, but you’ll surprise yourself when you try.
  18. Smoking is gross. Kissing a smoker is grosser.
  19. You don’t have to be promiscuous because you’re a male and you don’t have to be celibate because you’re a female. Do what you want.
  20. Don’t let the school system brainwash you into being average. They will try. Every step of the way.
  21. Society wants you to be average as well, but you can be exceptional if you’d like. It’s your choice.
  22. You will make mistakes. So what?
  23. It’s OK to feel sad.
  24. There is nothing wrong with you.
  25. Successful people read books.
  26. Passion can go a long way.
  27. Don’t kill yourself. It’s never worth it.
  28. Get tested.
  29. If you think you can do something you’re right. If you think you can’t do something you’re also right.
  30. The refrigerator light doesn’t always stay on.
  31. Whether you hear it or not, a falling tree always makes a sound.
  32. Money is not the root of all evil.
  33. Love of money is not the root of all evil either.
  34. You don’t need as much money as you think.
  35. Nobody cares what kind of car you drive. If they do, they’re not worth your time. (Also, replace car with: the kinds of clothes you wear.)
  36. Don’t be a pushover.
  37. Memories are priceless. Write them down daily. Even if they seem trivial.
  38. Nothing is trivial.
  39. Ask for what you want. If you don’t ask, you won’t receive.
  40. Don’t make the same mistake twice. If you do, don’t make it a third time.
  41. There will always be somebody more “successful” than you.
  42. Define your own rules for success. It’s a lot easier to rule your world than someone else’s world.
  43. Humans are the only mammals that drink milk after they’ve grown. They’re also the only mammals that drink another mammal’s milk.
  44. If you don’t feel good you probably don’t need a doctor. It’s your diet.
  45. Even if an apple a day doesn’t keep the doctor away it sure tastes good.
  46. Doctors aren’t all bad, but many will write you any prescription you ask for if you know how to ask.
  47. The fact that gay marriage is not recognized is an abomination. If you support Freedom, you support gay marriage.
  48. Religion causes a lot of problems.
  49. Telling someone they’re wrong never leads to anything positive. Even if they’re wrong.
  50. You’ll never be good enough if you don’t define great.
  51. Being dependent on TV shows or sports teams is for children and teenagers.
  52. You don’t need more than 3 pairs of shoes. 1 athletic, 1 dress, and 1 casual. Even that might be overkill.
  53. If you wear the same pants every day nobody will notice.
  54. Write down your dreams/nightmares for 30 days every morning immediately upon waking up. Some trippy stuff will start happening.
  55. It is scientifically proven that if you eat meat you’re not an environmentalist. Don’t pretend to care about the environment. Care or don’t care.
  56. Whether global warming is real or made up, is it really so difficult to throw a cigarette butt in a trash can instead of the street? (Replace the following with cigarette butt: gum, paper, bottles, anything.)
  57. If you say you love animals and you kill them for dinner (physically or by shopping at the deli counter) there is a blatant disconnect.
  58. Just because somebody tells you something is true, doesn’t mean it is. Do your own research.
  59. Jealousy is mankind’s most useless emotion. Instead of feeling jealous, feel happy.
  60. Happiness is mankind’s most useful emotion.
  61. If you help people get what they want, you will “miraculously” get what you want.
  62. It’s OK to be a follower. It’s better to be a thought leader.
  63. It’s OK if you don’t like something. Just don’t pretend that you do.
  64. There are exceptions to every rule. That doesn’t make the rule invalid.
  65. You can’t break rules if you don’t learn them first.
  66. If somebody tells you they want the best for you what they mean is they want you to do what they say and follow the rules.
  67. You should play on a swing set at least once every year. It is guaranteed to bring a smile to your face.
  68. Don’t blame anybody for your problems. They’re yours. The sooner you establish this the sooner you can work on them.
  69. If you can’t sing, sing anyway. Especially at karaoke.
  70. Just because a billion people do something doesn’t mean it’s right.
  71. If you eat moldy bread you might feel like shit. Pun not intended. :)
  72. Don’t wish, do. “I wish I could…” is a waste of thought energy.
  73. Some people say you should do something every day that scares you. That’s a lofty goal, but even if you do something every week that scares you you’ll come out ahead.
  74. Do what scares you.
  75. If you think something is a bad idea, it might mean you should do it. Or it might mean it’s actually a bad idea.
  76. Stop watching so much TV.
  77. It really is easier to ask for forgiveness than to ask for permission. Try it next time.
  78. It’s OK if you don’t want to travel the world. There are lots of things to explore in your own backyard.
  79. Don’t listen to anybody who tells you “you’re missing out” by not going somewhere or doing something. You’re only missing out if you believe you’re missing out.
  80. Don’t think of cost. Think of value.
  81. If something is expensive that doesn’t mean it’s worth it. If something is cheap that doesn’t mean it’s not. Usually, neither of those options are ideal.
  82. Maybe you can’t have it all. That doesn’t mean you shouldn’t try.
  83. You can change the world because you define your world.
  84. Jakfruit is hard to find, but so very worth it.
  85. Give away something you love. You’ll learn a) detachment and b) it feels great.
  86. Do activities by yourself. Solo Social Activities (movies, dinner, concerts, travel) can be a lot of fun.
  87. Stop depending on other people.
  88. It’s OK to complain sometimes. Don’t make it a habit.
  89. Do what you love even if you don’t get paid for it.
  90. Stop texting or checking your phone when you’re with other people. It’s rude and it’s sad.
  91. Drink more water.
  92. Show gratitude.
  93. Make more mistakes.
  94. There is no such thing as luck. No good luck. No bad luck. You either make good things happen or you make bad things happen. Nothing more, nothing less.
  95. The secret to winning is playing. Often. (This advice does not hold for games of chance.)
  96. Everybody lies. Trust people anyway.
  97. If you dwell on past mistakes you will get depressed. Dwell or don’t dwell, but know the outcome.
  98. There is always more you can do. But that doesn’t mean there is always more you should do.
  99. Don’t compare yourself to other people. Compare yourself to yourself.
  100. Low calorie does not mean healthy. Stop fooling yourself.
  101. Seek danger.

Finding Your Right People

Because life’s more fun with your Right People…

Making decisions isn’t always easy, but procrastinating on making a decision is worse than making a wrong decision.

I’ll tell you where this is coming from.

After closing down registration for the Ridiculously Extraordinary Member’s Area last Friday I got a handful of e-mails asking where to sign up. Because I’m a man of my word, once registration was closed, it was closed. Maybe I closed it a few minutes early, maybe I closed it a few minutes late, but around 10:30am EST it was closed.

As I’ve said before, this isn’t about money.

The Right People Thing

It’s about, as Havi from FluentSelf.com would say, finding my Right People.

As she states in that article, just because you’re not my Right People, it doesn’t mean you’re my wrong people.

And here’s the thing: I don’t necessarily decide if you’re my Right People. You decide that on your own.

My Right People don’t have to be pushed or prodded.

You comment on this blog, you share posts with friends on twitter and facebook and elsewhere, you send me a short succinct e-mail with a question or comment (or sometimes a long e-mail thanking me for something) and you take action when there is action to be taken.

You respect my time, my views, and my information. And in return, I respect yours.

And most importantly, you respect the fact that when I say I’m going to do something, I do it. So while it would be cool to let 4 additional people into the Member’s Area, it’s just not “Right.”

It’s A Touchy Subject

It almost feels like it’s an exclusivity thing, doesn’t it? Like if you don’t fit perfectly into the puzzle we shouldn’t be friends.

It goes beyond that.

“The people who need my message in my form will get it.” – Havi Brooks

Maybe my message isn’t right for you and that’s cool. It’s OK if we don’t vibe or if you don’t want to be here. That’s the beauty of all of this.

You can choose to be a Ridiculously Extraordinary Freedom Fighter or you can choose not to be. Everything I do is a filter. Everything I write is a filter. It helps make your decision easier. You’re welcome. :)

Freedom Fighters come in all forms, but there are common traits. It’s more of a feeling, actually. It’s not something I can synthesize into words on a blog post. It’s not something you can put a finger on either.

It just is.

You Should Create Filters Too

There is no sense in spending your life attracting people who aren’t your Right People. But the only way to find your Right People is to create filters. Your favorite hobby is a filter. Your lifestyle is a filter. Your point of view is a filter. Your job, where you live, what you eat, what you don’t eat, the type of music you listen to, how you treat others … these are all filters.

How A Filter Filters

Your Right People don’t have to have the same interests as you. They don’t have to have the same hobbies. You can actually have almost nothing in common. What it boils down to is respect. Your Right People will acknowledge everything about you, whether they agree or disagree, and still support you.

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I’ve been meaning to write this article ever since I read about Havi’s Right People concept. It took me a while to get it out and I’ve already begun adding more filters here. There are even more on the way.

I hope, if my filters filter you away, that you find your Right People. It’s important and I want you to have your Right People.

Because if you’re not living life with your Right People you’re not living life.